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How are things different from before online dating
The male voice
Spanking out the effect of hormones
Three female film characters men admire
My friend, my lover, my rock
American type of marriage
Reassurance for those new to all this
My first online dating experience
Growing up

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2006 Jan 17 - 08:31 | reply to this comment
Like the women in the films?
Gosh no, I'm afraid not, I wish I was! I would love to be brave and adventurous and resourceful and clever like they are, but I'm not unfortunately. Not at all.

'Desk Set' is a wonderful film. It's very unusual in that it is about a group of women who work together (in a reference library), and they all like their job and they all like each other and they all get on so well, it's a sort of idyllic picture of women at work such as i've seldom ever seen on film before. There are films about women making their way in careers and outsmarting the male competition, but this film is very rare in presenting an idealised view of women working together. The climax of the film, when they stand there watching happily as the computer that they believe (mistakenly) has been brought in to replace them goes haywire is marvellous. It's my absolute favourite Katherine Hepburn/Spencer Tracy film, though 'Woman of the Year' 'Adam's Rib' and 'Pat and Mike' are all good too.

Your article was a very entertaining read, I enjoyed it very much. I certainly enjoyed the 'Legally Blonde' films, but the heroine is someone I would be a bit startled to encounter in a lawyer's office in real life. I think she belongs on film.

by Louise C on 2006 Jan 17 - 12:19 | reply to this comment
Another great female character
Maureen O'Hara is another fabulous actress. She brings real feminine dynamism to her roles. Her characters are sharp, witty and ultra feminine. She often gets the upper-hand with her male leads (and in more ways than one - public spankings with John Wayne - how humiliating!).

We watched the old Walt Disney "Parent Trap" last night. It wasn’t until Maureen O’Hara’s character entered the plot that I really began to enjoy the film. Between Ms McKendrick (Maureen O’Hara) and her twin daughters Sharon and Susan (Haley Mills) that simpering ‘Miss Robinson’, the ‘younger other woman’ didn't have a snowflake’s chance in hell of marrying the estranged husband & father! I guess this is one area were women excel and men are left dumbfounded– the subtle and not so subtle power plays between women.

Power plays aside – that film Desk Set sounds great. Women can be such great comrades too.